Come on, Just Say You're Sorry!

"Come on, Say You're Sorry!"


Okay...I have this secret... You all think I am perfect, since I am "Marriage and Family Therapist" and all...

Here it is.... I really don't like apologizing. There, I said it.

It took me a long time to realize this about myself. Actually, I think it comes down to a deeper issue: I don't like to be in the wrong. I really enjoy being right. I have a lot of common sense, I trust my instincts, and I am fairly intelligent. So, a lot of the time, I am right. But, I sure do make some mistakes, especially in my marriage. You see, my husband is the greatest, and I am so comfortable around him, and I let things slide that I don't do around others...and I mess up sometimes.

Now, I have seen a fair amount of couples with this problem, too. So, here is my really wise advice:

JUST SAY YOU'RE SORRY!

My husband taught me a really cool thing that I say to a lot of my couples. If you have done anything wrong, even if you are 1% in the wrong, go ahead and apologize. My husband pulls this fast one on me, and man, do I feel guilty (the good kind of guilt when you have done something wrong). When he admits the small stuff that he did, and I realize that I hadn't apologized for my wrong, I want to show him that I love him, too, and that I am sorry for what I did. It is amazing how humility and care can melt a prideful heart!

I really believe that if people got really good at apologizing and forgiving one another, this world would be a different place!

So, just get over yourself for a minute and tell the one you love that you are sorry! (And no, I am not sorry for telling you to get over yourself).