Have you ever been to a clothing store where the mirror is totally distorted???? Where it makes you look 25 pounds bigger than the last time you were there? Where the lighting makes you look pastey and sickly? UGGGGG! All 50 of the clerks and managers that I talked to reassured me that they are accurate and not playing a nasty trick on me. :)
Before I was married I really had it together (and I was 18 pounds thinner, but who is keeping track?). I was patient, kind, and people really thought I was sweet and such a catch. Then, I met the man of my dreams, and we both realized that I wasn't as sweet as everyone thought I was. I could be kind of bossy (I would blame that on being the oldest of my siblings), have a high need for control (I attributed that to my hard working nature), and grouchy if I didn't get sleep (God made us to need sleep, right?).
Oh, isn't it amazing to see the flaws that marriage brings out. It is just like that "fun house" mirror at the clothing store. We come face to face with weaknesses that never surfaced before, emotions that we never had to manage, and insecurities that did not have an opportunity to show themselves.
Oh, yeah, sure, marriage is hard, but it is also an amazing opportunity for God to improve you. So, go on, look in that mirror, as horrifying as it may be. You will be better for it!
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With regard to "That Darn Mirror," I think hotel bathrooms are the worst offenders. The last time I traveled and stayed in a very nice hotel (with GREAT lighting, sadly), I noticed in the bathroom mirror, certain ...."changes" .... and stated with a loud exclamation in earshot of God, "ooooooOOOOOO, .... when did THAT happen?!?!?!"
ReplyDeleteYes, we all have flaws and it seems those flaws are more pronounced as we age--whether married or single. A fews years ago after turning 50, I decided to go with the flow and just laugh about it. (And what a "freeing" experience!) I discovered that God allows our bodies to change for a reason, but with those unseemly and unwanted changes, also provides us with a "way of escape" -- a good sense of humor. Sometimes, you just have to laugh.
Great Stuff, This idea is confirmed in a book I'm reading "Sacred Mariage" The author talks about the idea that God may have designed marriage to help us with our tendency to be selfish... Look forward to your updates...
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